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“You’ve No Time For Us!” : Friends say I have changed after motherhood

How much does your relationship with friends change post a baby. Are you the same any more?

The perfect mom – isn’t that what it always is about? The ‘perfect’ is everywhere you look; the pressure to be perfect is in every aspect of life. But is ‘perfect’ real? Is the photo of the mom who’s rocking her baby, her beautiful curly hair flowing in the wind, both baby and mom smiling at each other, silhouetted against a setting sun, amid a field filled with gorgeous daisies – is that photo real?

Here:

(a) I have not washed my hair in the past 4 days, (it is a new grunge look I am sporting; goes well with my crumpled tees), and
(b) There are no daisy fields around me.

So, I am guessing that photo is not real and all it does is make me feel bad. Truth is, motherhood is the most blissful period of my life but it is the toughest too! It is a juggling act wherein you are constantly trying to keep all the balls in the air and the balls have a mind of their own. As new mothers, we read a lot, are advised a lot, prepare a lot… but nothing can actually make us ready for what is in store. You go in with a lot of preparation, yet you actually learn on the job.

Once you become a mother, your relationships change too. The most important person in your life now is a small human, who does not come with an instruction manual, is very unpredictable, and mostly sleeps but for short periods of time. After becoming a mother my priorities and my capabilities changed. My friends felt that I was changing, and yes I was. I was no longer the perfectly turned out, fashionably dressed girl with the latest designer bag in hand (one within my budget), ready to go out on a moment’s notice in my ridiculously high heels…

The perfectly turned out feature was lost somewhere in my third trimester when my transition from human to waddling penguin was complete. The fashionable dresses changed to clothes that would fit me now, would be easy to wear, and could survive constant spit ups, and a lot of wiggling and pulling. Oh, I have tried wearing fashionable blouses, with frills, boat necks, layered ones…But trust me, it gets really difficult when you have a toddler who thinks it is absolutely normal to hang from and pull down mom’s dresses necklines! Now I stick to tees and yoga pants almost entirely. The designer bag is filled with sanitisers, diapers, wipes and snacks with an odd toy or two. And heels, you say?

So what about going out with, or talking to, friends? Do I get to do it?

Read it further  On WOM, were I originally wrote this :

Real Moms Real Stories

Review of Sipahh – Milk Flavouring Straws

Milkshake in a Straw – SipahhAs the name says, it truly is an Ahh! I just discovered the best and easiest way to make milkshakes and am going to share it with you.

Say hello to Sipahh! A unique milk flavoring straw from Australia, which has less than ½ tsp of sugar in each serving. All this time, I had been adding various milk flavoring powders to my milk to make it tasty and was consuming loads of sugar with it, now I can just use Sipahh instead. Amazing isn’t it?

Recently, I was sent this amazing box of milk flavoring straws in 5 different flavours and trust me I have been bowled over. It is tasty, healthy, with no artificial colors, flavors or preservatives, with less than ½ tsp of sugar in each serving and is a super fun way to make milk interesting. AND, my baby absolutely loved it. He has been asking for ‘Malk’ ever since he had these. 😊

What is it ? 

It is a straw filled with flavored beads. Each straw is filled with these colorful balls which imparts a unique flavor to your everyday milk and makes it tastier for your kids. As you sip, the pellets inside the straw dissolve and infuse a tasty flavor into your milk. Here are some of the things to note: 

. The straws are filled with flavored beads


. These can be used with reduced fat dairy milk, soy milk or any other milk alternative

. These can be used with both room temperature and cold milk

. 250 ml serving of milk with this straw has less than ½ tsp of sugar

. It comes in various flavors; thus there is a whole variety of tastes to choose from, my personal favorite being Lamington Dreams


. All these flavors have a very subtle taste. They enhance and don’t overpower the taste of milk.

. Each straw is made of stiff plastic, with a mesh on both sides through which the milk passes.

. Each straw can be used one time only

.These are gluten-free

. Excellent for kids who may be fussy about drinking milk normally

. Adult supervision is recommended



What I liked best ? 

Apart from the fact that it makes the milk tasty and flavorsome without having to add the sugar loaded flavoring agents, there are a couple more things I liked.

  • It is so much easier and mess-free. No adding, swirling, or shaking it up in a blender. You can just plop the straw into the glass of milk for your child and sit back while they slurp up the milky goodness. Lazy Mom Win 😆
  • It is lower in sugar than the other widely available ready-to-drink flavored milks and flavored syrups.
  • It is as flavorsome for an adult as for a kid, so yeah, even you can enjoy your glass of milk with some flavor without worrying about extra sugar.
  • Lastly, it is a milkshake in a straw, what more can I say? 😊


My baby liked it so much that he did a little dance upon drinking it, and kept coming back for more. He kept saying ‘Nam Nam’, which means ‘super tasty’ in baby language.😄

Here’s a link to the video I made of him drinking it :

So let your kids enjoy the Sipahh flavoured milk and let the goodness of milk fulfill their nutritional needs too.

Mommy Unstyled 

Messy bun and yoga pants, that is my style statement nowadays. And guess what, I like it. There is a reason why ‘moms’ adopt this style, coz it is smart, and easy. So to the younger me who was like ” I am never going to be the messy bun and leggings mama” “Girl !!! Weren’t you stupid 😂” When you are a mom, you realize the beauty of this style. It lets you run around a toddler who is always high, without worrying about your dress getting creased, it lets you walk out and get groceries at a minute’s notice from the shop downstairs. It lets you run down to the park when the toddler has had his nap and needs his exercise. 

Of course, Elegant flowy gowns are a thing of beauty, but not so much when my toddly hangs on its neckline and pulls it till it gets stretched beyond recognition. 

Of course I like the satin night gowns with frills, but i cant be bothered to change in and out of it everytime I have to go pick up my kid, or drop him, or go get veggies for his soup and dinner. 

Of course, i love to style and braid my hair, but my toddly thinks that yanking the pins forcefully out of mommy’s hair is the greatest 🙈. 

Of course I love my beautiful tops and blouses, but the tshirt can withstand many washes which are required thanks to the innumerable stains of mysterious origins that pop up on it. And frankly, I never iron these, just take it out and put it on 

And well in this hot weather having my hair high up is the only way i can survive. So shorts and tees and yoga pants and buns and ponytails are my staple styles. Dressing up is great but frankly it happens less frequently now. 

I mean face it, leggings and messy bun are there for a reason and that is because moms know how to do it right. 😆. Yay ! rocking my average mommying in my yoga pants. Do you mommas love the messy bun too? 

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Review of Carter’s Baby dresses : Baby boy fashions 

Here is a review and picture of my recent puchases from  @carters from @firstcryindia. Two  sets  of 2 piece Top & Shortalls with dungaree style straps, and 2 tshirts, perfect for the summers and a very bright and cute prints. These pieces are Cotton & Machine Washable, I always prefer machine washables as I really hate the hassle of hand wash or dry cleaning required clothes and baby A’s clothes need a wash every time he wears them. 

The one pictured below is the Dark blue & Yellow 2 piece Top & Shortall

The top is very bright and adorable and the metal buttons on the shortalls look very good. The print is adorable with small airplanes on it. Both the dungarees are very easy to use as there are romper style buttons for a quick diaper change and you don’t have to open the whole dress for a diaper change. One of the reasons I avoid dungarees during travel or while going out is the problem of diaper change. But these two are pretty easy to use. And dungarees look so cute.

It is very comfortable too for baby A. 

I loved boths  sets and it looks adorable on baby 

⏺ Top 100% Cotton

⏺ Shortalls 100% Terry Cotton

⏺ Metal Buttons

⏺ Pants have romper style buttons for easy diaper change

⏺ Dungarees style straps

⏺ Machine Washable


The model was not very willing to pose as he had other things to do; namely chewing on bad quality plastic water bottles. The ones I have a habit of collecting whenever I fly or visit a hotel. I have quite a collection of such bottles. And baby A knows where they are kept and takes them out to chew on regularly, as he has yanked off that drawer’s child latch already. Featured here are two such bottles; One is from Madarin Hotel Singapore another one is from the closed Kingfisher Airlines i think 🤔. Well, from ensuring that I only use BPA free containers for him; when at all i have to use them, to not caring if he eats crap as long as it is not actual crap. I am rocking my average mom journey. Parenting fail 😂

Along with these I also bought two t shirts for the tiny tyke. Both cotton and have very cute designs.

The material is very good on both and these two are machine washable too.


It is really hard for me to buy cute clothes for baby A, not many brands cater to this need, whereas it is pretty easy to buy clothes for girls. Carter’s is thus my highly favourite brand given that it has a lot of adorable designs and their quality is superb. 

Nothing but the best for the baby, right? Also keep a lookout for discounts, I bought these from Firstcry.com with a pretty decent discount. Carter’s is available on Firstcry site 

What is in your bag today? Packing list of a toddler; by a toddler

Packing List of a Toddler: by a Toddler. This is what a toddler needs when he is running away. Yes, thats right, while all other mommies are giving some really nice tips and helping with lists of how to pack when going out with babies, I The average mom, bring it for you from a toddler’s perspective. So, baby A made a run for the door, again, (he really always is ready to go out and play and I want to just slouch on the sofa 😭). And this time he did not take his regular bag, which I carry when we go down to play, this time he decided to take charge of his own packing. So here is the bag that my 1.5 yrs old toddy packed on his own. Watch the video to see it. Turns out I have been making the wrong lists all this time 🙄.Hmm, now I know. 😂

On a more serious note, now baby A has adjusted really well to his day care routine, but, I can see a new pattern nowadays and that is of an increased amount of tantrums, once he is back. He gets really tantrumy when he is back and throws a couple of fits, for some time at least, like today he threw his water bottle right out of my hand and kept doing that whenever I picked it up. I have noticed that he is very happy when he comes out of his day care, he rushes at me laughing and for some time clings to me, which is natural, but once we are back home, he does get a bit fussy. Thiugh it lasts for a very small time, and I keep talking to him softly and ask him why is he getting angry or what is it that he needs, but he does surely is a bit fussy, for some time. I am wondering what is the reason for the same, all in all, he is pretty easy going and a loveable tyke. But off late the tantrums have started coming on. I am wondering is it the onset of the ‘terrible twos’? Please mommies tell me what do u think about this. Is it natural for a few tantrums to start at this age ? .

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Going out ; how it looks like post a baby & Review of Fisher Price High Chair 

Review of Fisher Price High chair and the scenes of evenings out after baby

What do your evenings look like after becoming a mom? These are our Weekend scenes. After a tiring day my little moppet fell asleep during dinner. Life sure has changed in the last year and a half for us.

 Dinners out are way different than what they used to be. There are no more relaxing conversations over some yummy food, rather, now it is trying to keep the toddler engaged and happy. Though the second part is pretty easy as baby A is very happy to go out. He enjoys it a lot. But keeping him engaged is another thing.

 Also having a super active toddler around means that we never ever travel without our high chair. Most restaurants have high chairs available, and I make it a point to call ahead and ask that. If they dont provide one, we carry ours along. 

I have been using the @fisherprice 4 In 1 High chair and it is one more thing I am happy to have bought. It converts into a portable high chair which is very easy to carry along in our car. Without a high chair, we cannot hope to dine out with baby A.  I really like this chair as 

  1. It has 4 features, 
  2. can be used as a high chair 
  3. a booster seat, which is portable and easy to carry
  4. later on this can be used as a table and chair for the toddler to sit and read at
  5. The tray is large 
  6. The fabric part comes off easily and is machine washable
  7. It is very sturdy, trust me, baby A shakes and  behaves like a mini tornado at times, while sitting on it but he is unable to budge it a bit 
  8. You can see the pic below, and it is available on @amazonindia

Here is the link; http://www.amazon.in/gp/aw/d/B00TH5AMAW/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1491548862&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX118_SY170_QL70&keywords=fisherprice+high+chair&dpPl=1&dpID=41kUcfranRL&ref=plSrch


The second challenge is keeping all the cutlery away from him and also hiding all types of glasses from him. He is in that phase where he wants to imitate all of the things that we do, and thus refuses to drink water from his sippy cup and insists on drinking it from our tumblers. He is getting very good at it too. Eating with a spoon is a little distant yet though, thus we end up having a lot of spilled food around 🙈. He does not let us feed him and has to do it on his own. Thus Eating doesn’t happen that much. 

There are a couple of things I ensure to do when we go out

1. Go to a place which allows babies and also ensure it is not too crowded and loud. Though i want him to get familiar with outside environment but I don’t think he needs his dose of live music and bar crowd just right now. We prefer the little less crowded places. 

2. I remove all cutlery from his reach, as mentioned earlier. I also carry his spoon and sippy cup. The restaurant cutlery is sometikes heavy and not suitable for a child. 

3. Carry loads of wipes, and sanitiser of course is always in my bag. Wipe his hands down, wipe down everything around him as he may decide to pick it up and put it in his mouth. And sanitise our hands before eating. Though I will prefer washing hands anyday before sanitising. But sometimes it is not possible so much

4. We generally choose a seat which is a little secluded or in the corner and is confortable. So that he can jump around and we are at peace and can let him be him

5. Baby A loves spaghetti and noodles, so the 1st thing we order is that. Inask them to make it with very little seasoning and spices, most restaurants will oblige and prepare the dish as per your instructions. Ask them to make something simple which your baby likes. 

6. We put him on his high chair and let him eat on his own. It can be messy i agree but he surprises me with the way he handles his food. Awww moment there 

7. All the food we order is alway instructed to have less spices and no chilly. As baby A does end up tasting and eating our food.  And i let him eat whatever he likes. It is important to let hom explore new tastes. Continental food has a lot of grilled and steamed options and it is easier to feed it to baby A. He loves it.

8. I do not let him have outside water yet, not even mineral water. And carry his water.

9. I carry some of his fav snacks in my bag, just in case if he refuses all the food. A hungry baby will be hard to manage and you cant eat if he is hungry. So it is for emergencies, generally i carry , whole wheat biscuits or home made nimkins and a bottle of milk

9. A change of clothes for him and extra diapers. You need to be prepared just in case 😊

But as I was saying, the dinner scenes have changed a lot, both of us are busy entertaining the baby and don’t really get to talk that much. And the focus is also on feeding him. And then if he wants to get out of the high chair, which he does after some amount of time, then trying to eat with him squiggling in your lap is an effort worth an award. Well in those cases, we give in and put on a video for him 🙈🙊. Go ahead judge away, I don’t mind, We want to have our dinner in peace and this way we can, so there it is. I don’t mind a little bit of screen time, if it is the only way to keep him engaged at times when we are outside sitting at some place. 

This pic was taken when he fell asleep during dinner, he was tired after running around the mall. How do your evening scenes look like post a baby, have they changed? Do share any tips if you have to make the evenings smoother when going out with a kid. Would love to read some tips 😊